Carving a Path to Freedom

What does freedom mean to you? In yoga there is a teaching that strong structures and self-discipline lay the path to freedom. At first glance, that hardly sounds like freedom. It sounds like a lot of work. What do rules and self-imposed discipline have to do with freedom?

When our foundations are strong, we have the most freedom to choose. When we honour our routines, our schedules, our bodies and minds through proper nutrition, exercise and rest, we provide a solid base from which to move, breathe, create and dream outside of those structures. When we are familiar with the 'end-feel' of our limitations, we stay focused and on task. We feel safe and in control of our destiny. This creates freedom gained through certainty and security.

Spontaneity is an out-cropping of that security. With strong roots, trees are able to bend in the wind. So if freedom is what you want, if play is important to you, take stock of the structure and stability in your life. In what ways can you count on yourself? In what ways might you create more of the structure and systems that will ultimately support you AND your wildness, your inspiration, your moxie and your freedom? 

Life on My Own Terms

What does living Life on your own terms mean to you? Who would you love? Who would support you? What career would you choose? Where would you travel? Where would you eat? How would you play? Who would your friends be? How would people treat you? What would you attract into your life? Most importantly, how would you see yourself? What would it feel like to be in your shoes? Who is the best version of you?

First, we have to talk about the elephant in the room that we would rather ignore. We can become so caught up in the "doing", through which we hope to "arrive" at some future destination of satisfaction and happiness. We can be quite harsh with ourselves in the way we measure 'not enough', 'never good enough', which becomes the driving mantra to fuel the wrong kind of doing. We cut, measure, dissect, compare and judge ourselves. We struggle to leave ourselves alone in peace. Then we expect that negative self-assessment to magically create a better life for us in some far distant future. The good news, and bad news is this: Like attracts like. Two wrongs will not make a right. So maybe, just maybe, it is time to shift the paradigm.

What would happen if you were to give yourself permission, for just a little while, to stop striving, and instead shift your focus to one of ease, comfort, and self-appreciation? (For some of you, even granting yourself permission to ask the questions will be uncomfortable.)  What is the worst thing that can happen? You may be uncomfortable. You may judge yourself ...again. That is nothing new. You can handle it. 

 What if, however, you start to get glimpses of what living a life on your own terms might look like? Maybe you will see the Future You -  happy, strong, healthy, self- assured and resilient. Maybe you will be inspired to unlock a gift; a secret passion, a hidden gem, to share with those you love and the world at large. Let's start with the end in mind. If you were to act 'as if', from the vantage point of this bigger version of you, how would you choose differently? 

Let's play a little bit. Grab your journal or scrapbook. Through pictures and words, set a strong vision for the life you want to create. Then work backwards from there. How would THAT person treat herself? Would she be a priority? Would she care about her own happiness? Would she dare to ask for the love, the dream life, the happiness, the freedom? And then from that place of self-love and empowerment, how could SHE positively impact those around her? Living Life on your own terms is not selfish, it is a call to intentionally live your purpose, and invite others to do the same.


Living a Gorgeous Life

What does it mean to "Live a Gorgeous Life"?

Living a Gorgeous Life is about surrounding yourself with Beauty, with looking and feeling gorgeous inside and out, experiencing the richness that Life has to offer, and contributing back into the world by living the most beautiful version of yourself possible; body, mind and spirit.

Living a Gorgeous Life means following the things that fascinate you, that stir passion within you, that inspire you to be engaged in your life. At times curious, purposeful, mission-focused, and at other times receptive, surrendering and trusting. Life becomes gorgeous when we become present and grateful, when we stop apologizing for who we are, stop feeling small, and start living this one beautiful and unique path we were given to claim as our own. 

So ask yourself ...who do you want to be? When sitting in the rocking chair of life, what tales do you want to tell? Adventures will you have had? Loves will you have loved, and lives will you have touched? What will be your legacy? How much beauty, purpose, playfulness and joy will you have breathed into the world?

IT'S TIME! Embrace the beauty of your imaginings and the passions of your soul.

Take a few moments to imagine ... then do! 

In the words of Meredith Grey (Grey's Anatomy): 

"So, do it. Decide. Is this the life you want to live? Is this the person you want to love? Is this the best you can be? Can you be stronger? Kinder? More Compassionate? Decide. Breathe in. Breathe out. And decide."

What does living a gorgeous life mean for YOU?



Sexy, Playful and Strong ... Redefining Yourself After Life Falls Apart

One thing is certain ...  Life has happened to all of us. Joys, sorrows, gifts, losses; they all shape who we are, who we have become, and the parts of ourselves that maybe we have left behind, be that good or bad. 

Life is too short. The best parts of who we are can become lost or buried. Sexy, Playful and Strong was created to reclaim some of those parts of ourselves that need re-membering, re-envisioning, re-engaging and re-invention.

Steeped in the wisdom traditions of yoga and martial arts, with a healthy dose of self-reflection and women's empowerment, setting the intention to live as sexy, playful and strong first, brings us into alignment with the most precious parts of ourselves. It clears away what is no longer serving us. It moves us away from self-judgement and limiting beliefs. It gives us permission to be all that we are - even if some of those things are contradictory; especially if some of those things are contradictory. It helps us to move from a place of fragmentation into a place of integration and wholeness.

IT IS TIME for a new chapter, to embrace a new beginning; to feel gorgeous in your own skin, to love your life and live it as a woman who feels Sexy, Playful and Strong all the time! Fall in love with your life!!